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Parental alienation is a term used to describe a situation where one parent, consciously or unconsciously, manipulates a child to turn against the other parent, creating a strained or estranged relationship. It typically occurs in the context of high-conflict divorces or separations, where one parent tries to negatively influence the child's perception of the other parent. Parental alienation can have serious emotional and psychological effects on the child, as it disrupts their sense of security, trust, and their relationship with the targeted parent. The child may be coerced or encouraged to reject the other parent, sometimes without valid reasons, leading to long-lasting damage in their relationship. Addressing parental alienation requires a comprehensive approach, involving counseling or therapy for both the child and the parents. It's important to prioritize the child's well-being and promote healthy co-parenting strategies that focus on the child's best interests. Legal interventions may also be necessary in severe cases to protect the child's rights and ensure a healthy parent-child relationship. If you are experiencing or witnessing parental alienation, it is advisable to seek professional guidance from a family therapist, counselor, or legal expert who specializes in family law and child custody matters.

Narcissistic mothers are individuals who exhibit narcissistic personality traits and behaviors, which can significantly impact their relationships with their children and family dynamics. Narcissistic personality disorder is characterized by an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a need for constant admiration, and a lack of empathy towards others. When applied to motherhood, narcissistic traits can manifest in various ways. A narcissistic mother may prioritize her own needs and desires over those of her children, manipulate and exploit others for personal gain, display a lack of empathy or emotional attunement, and seek constant attention and validation. The child's emotional well-being and development may be compromised due to the inconsistent and conditional love they receive. Growing up with a narcissistic mother can be challenging for children, as their needs may be neglected or invalidated. They may struggle with low self-esteem, difficulty establishing boundaries, and a skewed understanding of healthy relationships. It's important for individuals who have experienced this to seek support and healing, such as therapy or counseling, to address the emotional impact of their upbringing. If you or someone you know is dealing with the effects of having a narcissistic mother, it can be beneficial to seek professional guidance from a therapist or counselor who specializes in narcissistic personality disorder or family dynamics. They can provide valuable support and strategies for coping and healing.

Children who experience parental alienation can face significant emotional and psychological challenges. The alienation process can lead to the child developing negative perceptions, hostility, or even rejection of the targeted parent, often based on false or distorted information provided by the alienating parent. The effects of parental alienation on children can vary, but some common consequences include: 1. Emotional distress: Children may experience anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, guilt, confusion, and a sense of loyalty conflict. They may struggle to trust others or have difficulty forming healthy relationships. 2. Identity issues: Parental alienation can disrupt a child's sense of identity, as they may feel compelled to align themselves with one parent while rejecting the other. This can lead to a distorted self-image and a struggle to understand their own emotions and beliefs. 3. Long-term relationship difficulties: The strained relationship with the targeted parent may persist into adulthood, affecting the child's ability to establish and maintain healthy relationships. Trust issues and a fear of abandonment can arise from the experiences of parental alienation. 4. Psychological and behavioral problems: Children exposed to parental alienation may exhibit behavioral problems, such as aggression, withdrawal, or acting out. They may also have difficulties in school, experience academic decline, or engage in risky behaviors. Addressing the effects of parental alienation on children requires a multi-faceted approach. Professional intervention through therapy or counseling can help the child express and process their emotions, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and rebuild a relationship with the targeted parent if possible. Coordinated efforts involving both parents, legal interventions if necessary, and a focus on the child's best interests are crucial to mitigate the negative impact of parental alienation and support the child's well-being. If you are concerned about a child who may be experiencing parental alienation, it is advisable to seek professional help from a therapist, counselor, or legal expert who specializes in family dynamics and child custody matters. They can provide guidance and support tailored to the specific situation. #parentalalienation #childrenofparentalalienation #anothermomsbattle

Here's some advice from other alienated parents who have been or who are currently in your shoes. "Praise the lord be thankful and hope for more and more time together and keep fighting they need you". "I just had time with my almost 17 year old son after 1 year and 10 months with no contact, I was nervous and anxious. I just vibes off of him, and kept it light & as normal as possible, don’t push or ask just let her be herself with you & her guard will come down when she doesn’t feel any pressure from you. These kids get enough of that from the other parent. I had only 2 hours. When he 1st saw me he hugged me & cried, (he usually doesn’t show emotion) last time he cried he was about 3 or 4 so for me that was HUGE. I wish you a blessed reunion & take it all in, most importantly be present, she will feel your love come through ❤️" "Be kind patient and understanding". "Do all the positive & creative things you & your family do, especially what other family does not do. Make all of it as Fun & Exciting as possible, More". "Just enjoy and don't try to set the record straight. enjoy making up lost time". "Vent to us here. This is NOT the time to discuss ANY issues other than how fun or great the child is… even if bad behavior comes out, try to stay focused". "I’m SO SO HAPPY FOR YOU ❤️❤️ 1st. Take NOTHING your child says or does personally. 2nd. No matter what your child says to you, respond positively - even when it really, really hurts; personally, I told my own children (for 6 years) that I understood and respected how they felt, but that didn’t change how I felt about them - nothing they could ever do or say would ever make me stop loving them or stop showing up for our visits. 3rd. Your child may be really uncomfortable and withdrawn if it’s been a while since you’ve seen each other- be prepared for that. 4th. Have some age appropriate activities & questions about what your child has been doing for fun, looking forward to etc. prepared - anything OTHER than the divorce/separation - everything positive. It DOES get better. They DO grow up and REMEMBER you". "Don’t focus on any alienation stuff at all. Just focus on them and what’s important to them. Ask about their friends and hobbies, what they’re enjoying in school at the moment, anything that shows them you’re genuinely interested. I’ve been reconnected with my adult son now for about 6 months and I still haven’t brought it up. Time and distance will allow us to talk it through eventually, but for now he just needs his mom to be genuine and involved. SHOWING them that you aren’t what the other person says is all that will convince them and win them back". "Focus upon the Child not the issues" "Just love them" "If it isn't positive and fun don't do it. Remind them of past good times with, "remember when we...." reinforce this often so they relive it in their mind. Tell them "there is a lot of things you won't understand but keep in the back of your mind that I do everything to make agreat future." "Act and do things that are the opposite of what the alienator is saying about you. Be loving, be fun, and enjoy the time"! "Listen. Listen. Listen". "Focus on the present and be mindful that your children are doing the best that they can. Always remind yourself of that and do the best you can. Be who you are as a parent, setting boundaries and expectations as you normally would. Keep your opinions about the other parent to yourself, and always be positive". "Enjoy time together" "Have a photo album and pics and vids on your phone so they can see the and remember. Talk about the good times you had previously and plan for further good times. And make sure if you make some sort of promise that you keep it…shows trust". "Make it easy, have fun" "Play normal, act normal, be normal and Expect nothing"! "Focus on the child. Show love. Don’t burden her or him with your “ stuff”. Be the grown up". "Hubby fought for YEARS over his kids whom he had 50 50 he got tired said f it they will find me when they are adults...and they did" "Patience undwrstanding love" "Keep the conversation full of light-hearted fun. Tell jokes, funny stories, invite the child to tell you all about everything great that is going on with friends, with school, with sports....and do something child friendly that takes pressure off the situation....but still allows conversation. Go bowling, go to a museum....go to play putt-putt golf. Don't bring up the past, don't dig for info about other adults, don't try to buy their love, don't get weepy. Buy a small item that they can remember the fun times when they look at it or play with it. Develop a few "traditions" like a special hug, a wink, a song you sing together that is fun....something they associate with you. Be the grown up who doesn't bring more grown-up stress into the situation. Be normal, be loving, shine your special light". "Don't bring up the other parents mishaps. Don't blame. Don't try to resolve anything. Just enjoy ur child. Tell them ur willing to answer anything they wish to answer in due time Ask about school. About interests that may hv changed in their lyfe. STAY AWAY FROM PROVING UR POINT...." "No questions asked. About the past" "Smile, hold a container for the kid to empty its backpack in and then dispose of it. And look forward, you cannot change the past anyway. Ignore logic, use empaty and enjoy". "Don’t bring up the past unless they ask. Don’t talk bad about the other parent. Record all drop offs and pick ups in secret recorder. Send only text messages when talking to other parents. Don’t have another person of the opposite Sex spend the night when kid is present. Love love love. Go pick out some room decore for your kids room. With your kid. Make the kids room feel like home". "Boundaries. They have also been in survival mood, and it can spark a manipulation for us alienated parents to be taken advantage of..." "Don't say a WORD about the other parent, the courts, etc. - just keep it light and fun". "It helped me to decide my task was Connection, not Correction". "Try not to talk about what happened. There is plenty of other stuff to talk about. They have family medical history they need to know about is one".

The Wall Of Shame Have you found yourself being alienated from your child? Have you sought help from the Family Court System? Did you unknowingly hire an Attorney who has little to no apparent knowledge or previous work in this area? Has a Guardian at Leitem and or a Therapist been assigned to your case who also has little to no apparent knowledge or previous work in this area? Do you feel their incompetence is further alienating your child from you? Please share their names, City and State so that others may save themselves from further alienation and time and money wasted by these inexperienced "professionals". Please the info in the comment section below.

Our son graduated 8th grade today. I got 10 minutes with him before he was wisked away with his dad's family. I used that alone time after he left to walk the grounds of the elementary school and reminisce of a time not so long ago when I was allowed to be a mommy. All the families were gone by now and it was only me there. I sat on the swings where I used to push my babies and where they used to bicker over who could swing next to me. I just sat there feeling hopeless and alone. I couldn't stop myself from crying like a child. It was bittersweet yet very haunting to be there without them and to look around seeing no children. No teachers no sounds it was eerie. Feelings of emptiness washed over me. Is this it now? This is all that is left of my motherhood. This empty void and haunting visual before me. It was in this very moment I could feel the nostalgia of a time when I thought I couldn't wait for them to get older. I was always ready for the next chapter to begin. Every small thing was just a lesson for me rather than a special moment which would stay with me forever. It haunts me now as I sit in this swing that once was a happy Place. Now I cringe at how my ignorance was blinding me back then. I thought they would stay small forever. How I would give anything to just step back in time and do it all again only this time I would soak in EVERY moment. It's such a strange and lonesome time now. I feel as if I have been thrown into a different dimension and I am never allowed to go back to the world from which I came. It feels as if I am being punished and I'm no longer permitted to be a part of my old life or say that I am their mother. It's like I have been sentenced to a lifetime of only looking in on tiny glimpses of my children's lives. I am an empty nester but without the joy of guiding them away from the nest. I don't know how to comprehend all of this. I guess I never will.... (Feel free to share this post if it helps someone else)

Dear Friends, Family and Supporters, It is with a profound heartbreak, that I hope none of you ever experience, that I am writing my last post ever. Today, I will be ending my own life. I will be doing so in a dignified and idyllic setting in Europe. There are simply no other options left. In the last four years of my life I have woken up every day to a nightmare like no other. I can no longer endure the abuse and terror of Allan Kassenoff, who has spent the last 4 years mercilessly trying to incarcerate me on false charges, as recently as March 2023. I have also endured the emotional devastation of being without my children for so long, homeless from Allan's repeated ex parte evictions of me from the homes I own and rented, deprivation of my property and obliteration of my life savings, the loss of my two dogs, the loss of my career and reputation, and the concomitant humiliation and ostracism from all this. Perhaps if I had the physical endurance to keep going, I would. But with a new, terminal health issue that will soon be severely limiting my physical strength as well, and with no protection from our courts, I cannot keep running from Allan. I was recently diagnosed with a virulent and life-ending cancer -- after having had breast cancer twice in my life already. I cannot go through debilitating chemo, surgeries and radiation again, this time with a dire prognosis and with Allan fighting me "until he dies" and no court intervention whatsoever. Those were his exact words to me in an email he sent on March 19, 2023 (see dropbox link, below). So please understand why I did not share this news widely: if Allan had known about my health issues, he surely would have tried that much harder to end my existence. As many of you know, on January 26, 2022, I was falsely arrested on serial reports made by Allan Kassenoff in October 2021, December 2021 and then on January 25, 2022. After I proclaimed my innocence and fought these allegations, I won. On March 16, 2022, all his bogus charges were dropped and his bogus ex parte orders of protection were vacated. His claims for "contempt" - seeking my incarceration - were also dismissed with prejudice. But history has shown that Allan will never stop until I am gone. As recently as March 18th, 2023, Allan again tried to have me arrested. On that day, while I was watching our 9 year old daughter skate, he got off the ice and came at me. I told him to "get away from me" four times. He wouldn't. He taunted me instead. He then reported me to police, claiming falsely that he had a "restraining order" when he didn't and when I had every right to see my daughter skate. I captured his confrontation of me on video, which I am posting in Dropbox, along with the 911 call and the police report in which he falsely told police I was capable of "killing" him or my own children. Based on the false 911 call he initiated, police officers came to the rink. Allan stood in the background with our daughter, laughing and pointing at me while I was being questioned, waiting with her to see if I would be taken away in cuffs. See the photo. Fortunately, I wasn't arrested; the police realized he was lying. But this is how I have been living for years: like a hunted animal, worried about when Allan will make the next false report. He sees all this as a game and the courts have not stopped him; they too are even scared of him or maybe they just don't care. While they handed out ex parte TOPs against me like candy, on his say-say, they would not even enter a TOP against him after two days of testimony from police and the rink manager that he lied in order to try to procure my false arrest - again. For a long time, I believed I could make my children's lives better by fighting to stay in them, even if it was for just moments at a time. As time went on, the "in-between" of those moments became interminable, unbearable. I would long for the girls and try to think of all the things they might need, even though I was held at such a distance that I did not even know what those things might be. I imagined who their friends were, where they went, who they spent time with, what their dreams were. I had nothing more than my own imagination to work with because for the last 3 years, I was excised from being their mother. I could not tuck them into bed at night, take them to school, host their sleepovers, make their breakfasts, or take them on vacations. Allan wouldn't allow any of that; the court gave him everything he wanted. I often shook from the pain of it. In recent weeks, I came to realize that my presence in their lives only brings them pain and suffering. That is because they must answer to a father who does not view me as human. He erased every element of their being that had anything to do with me: French, Christianity, tennis, e.g. They have learned to identify with him, in order to survive. So, they now declare how they "hate Christmas" and they call me "Catherine" instead of "mom." For him. In the end, they must reject me. For him. I can see the pain on their little faces when they have to manage the unspeakable conflict that only my oldest seems strong enough to manage and fight through to see me. It is a look that has haunted me for a long time. I don't want to see it anymore. I just want their and my pain to end. Their father has spent years and millions of dollars - over $ 3 million - to eliminate me from our girls' lives. He has liquidated savings to do so. He will never relent, he will spend their life savings, he will demonize me to them mercilessly, and he has made them suffer if they even just want to see me. They have been diagnosed with depression and worse. As long as I am alive and want to see them, they will be damaged over and over again with every attempt I make. What is the point of that? The last thing I want to do is make my own children suffer. Even in death, Allan Kassenoff will never stop. After I am gone, he will falsely tell everyone that I am "mentally ill", that I am a criminal and a liar. But I am none of these things and have proven it. I don't have a criminal past; I am a former federal prosecutor and special counsel to the governor of NY; I showed the undeniable abuse he perpetrated on numerous videos, showing I did not lie about that; and I have the testimony and reports of various doctors to prove my mental health. See the link. Indeed, under Swiss law, a person wishing to end their life can only do so after meeting a very high bar and being found competent, not suffering from mental impairments. The Swiss doctor and my therapists, Dr. Anna Filova, MD and Dr. Stephanie Brandt, MD, confirmed this. See the dropbox link. Allan's need to convince others otherwise comes from his shame about the truth: that he was a domestic abuser. By trying to cast me in these negative ways, he thinks he can clear his name. He cannot: the videos, audios and other materials will follow him forever. You will find police testimony about his abuse, medical records of his abuse, affidavits about his abuse, and more in the link. Shame on Greenberg Traurig, who knew all of this, and did nothing to stand up for the rights of domestic abuse survivors like me and my daughters. My girls deserve so much better than the life they were given by their father and the court system that was supposed to - and miserably failed to - protect them and me. The court system favors the monied party and, if that party happens to be an angry litigator, God help the other parent. I was a good and loving mom who sacrificed my own career trajectory to have children, whom I finally conceived after many years of fertility treatments. I did not abuse alcohol, children or drugs. I never had so much as a brush with the law (until Allan tried to have me arrested). I put my kids before everything in life. I did not lose my entire life to a fair and just process. I exposed both a corrupt forensic evaluator named Marc Abrams and a corrupt attorney for the children, Carol Most, both of whom were removed in disgrace from my case. But the system did not fix what it broke after that came to light. It turned my custody battle into a money-making churn. Allan filed this divorce action in May 2019. Until just recently, there still was no final trial scheduled in this case. What a complete disgrace - to use the misery of a family so that the various court personnel involved can get rich: Dr. Adler, whose PsyD somehow qualified her to charge $600/hour to "reprogram" the girls; Dr. McGuffog, who charged $450/hour so that the father could sit in on my daughter's sessions and who told my daughter she had to "pick between me or your mom"; Dr. Abrams, who made over $40,000 to testify for the father and was removed from the Panel of Forensic Custody Evaluators in disgrace; and Carol Most, who just billed a staggering $270,000 after being removed from the case for gross ethical misconduct. I hope in death I will accomplish what I could not in life. I hope our legislators, judges, media and others will take notice of the price I am paying today, the horrors of family court, and how the court destroys families in order to profit. I hope the public will stand up and say "no more." Your children deserve better. So did mine. My primary contact is Wayne Baker (federallitigator@gmail.com), should you have anything to share with him and who has all my documents from the divorce case etc. Please don't let my demise be in vain. Reach out to him to organize yourselves, use the facts of my case (which Wayne also has access to), and make change. Don't let our children grow up to re-experience this trauma as adults. All of my materials in support of what I write above are available at this link, which I urge you to share everywhere before Allan finds a way to shut down this Facebook page. Please don't let the world or my children forget the real Allan who is on the dozens of videos I have posted here on Facebook - please preserve them for my children when they are ready to remember and learn the truth about him. Please stand up against abusers like this who enjoy tormenting others. For the sake of my children and other mothers who live through this terror of domestic abuse, I ask that you please keep telling my story so that the truth is known far and wide: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fo/o4gbiq9vqdxkt7o0sxvxb/h?dl=0&rlkey=eb640eoezploh3qk4z41jtek2 Finally, a special thank you to those in my life who always put my children first and who supported me unfailingly: My Mother, Jennifer Culley, Keri Christ, Stephanie Brandt, Jonathan Davidoff, Wayne Baker, Katherine Klein, Katherine Sinsabaugh, Liz Kurtin, Lizzie Harding, Brian McQuillen, Rory Doyle, and my wonderful lawyers Andy Frisch and Evan Wiederkehr.