In family court settings, therapy is often presented as a neutral good. A corrective measure. A supportive intervention. A space where children can process emotions and families can heal. But in high-conflict, narrative-controlled systems, what is called therapy frequently serves a different function. It becomes a training environment. Not for insight. For alignment. The Structural Purpose of Court-Ordered “ Help ” Court-involved therapy rarely begins with open inquiry.

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Author’s Note I grew up without my father. My mother believed I shouldn’t know, and I accepted it, because I had no alternative. I had no other parent besides my mother, and if I wanted a relationship with her I knew I needed to give up wanting one with him. I did not know him. I did not know his name. I didn’t know his family. I did not know that I had siblings. By the time I learned the truth, my father had already died. He never knew I existed. There is no repair for that

“The child is distressed — but don’t ask why.” “The child wants it to end — so blame the parent who’s fighting.” “The child is overwhelmed — therefore remove the parent, not the pressure.” “The child is hurting — let’s add more adults.” “The child is anxious — better cancel contact.” “The child is stressed — but keep the stressors.” “The child doesn’t want therapy — so force therapy.” “The child wants peace — so prolong conflict.” “The child is confused — let’s give her adult

Subject: A Helpful Resource for [Child’s Name] Hi [Other Parent’s Name], I hope you’re doing well. I wanted to share something with you that I think could genuinely help support [Child’s Name] during this stage of life, especially as they’re getting older and learning how to understand their own thoughts and emotions. I came across a workbook called “Are My Feelings About My Other Parent Really Mine?” and it’s designed for kids ages 10 and up who are dealing with normal emoti

Subject: Request for Professional Support in Offering a Therapeutic Resource to My Child Dear [GAL Name] and [Therapist Name], I hope you both are doing well. I am reaching out because I recently discovered a therapeutic workbook titled “Are My Feelings About My Other Parent Really Mine” and I believe it may be a helpful tool for children and teens who are navigating complex emotions during and after family separation. The workbook is designed for ages 10 and up and focuses o

The Double Standard No One Wants to Admit: Why Family Courts Protect a Child’s “Lifestyle” But Not Their Relationship With a Parent. For decades, family courts have justified massive child-support orders with a single argument: “A child should not experience two different standards of living when their parents separate.” It sounds noble. It sounds protective. And financially, courts enforce it with an iron fist. But here’s the uncomfortable truth: Family courts fiercely prote

Dear Parents, Grandparents, and Fellow Advocates, My name is Nicole Anderson, and I own Parental Alienation Resource, a resource I created for victims of parental alienation. I’m reaching out to share something I believe can make a meaningful difference in the lives of teens who have grown up caught between two parents, two stories, and two emotional worlds. After years of witnessing parental alienation up close, both personally and through the families I’ve worked with, I’ve

If you’ve ever felt like your family court case reads more like a small-town soap opera than a legal proceeding, you’re not imagining it. Family court isn’t just a system, it’s a network, and that network protects itself. Welcome to Conflict Soup: Family Court Style, where everyone knows everyone else, everyone owes someone else, and your child is just the garnish floating on top. Let’s break down one of the most common, and most corrupt, patterns we see across the country.

WHY PARENTS CAN FEEL SAFE GIVING THIS BOOK TO THEIR CHILD, EVEN IN A HIGH-CONFLICT RELATIONSHIP OR IN THE MIDDLE OF A COURT CASE. If you’re a parent who feels helpless watching your child struggle with emotions they can’t fully explain, this book was written with you in mind. Are My Feelings About My Other Parent Really Mine? Is not a book about parents. It’s not about blame. It’s not about the court case. And it’s definitely not about choosing sides. It is about your child’s

SECTION 1. TITLE This act shall be known and may be cited as the “South Carolina Family Preservation & Integrity Act.” SECTION 2. LEGISLATIVE FINDINGS AND INTENT (A) The General Assembly finds that: The right of parents to the care, custody, and companionship of their children is a fundamental liberty interest protected by the United States Constitution and the Constitution of the State of South Carolina. Decades of court practices have resulted in inconsistent application of

Every time a meme calls out “mothers” or “fathers” in parental alienation, the comment section fills with the same chorus: “It happens to moms too!” or “It happens to dads too!” Yes, it does. Alienation isn’t owned by one gender. But here’s the thing: sometimes we need gender-specific language to expose the hypocrisy and patterns that are actually happening in courtrooms. In practice, the system isn’t neutral. Courts are far more likely to hand custody to mothers, even when a

When “family” court “professionals” defend cutting a child off from a parent, they almost always claim it’s for “protection.” They say the child is “safer” without contact, or that the parent is “too harmful” to be in their life. But here’s the truth: if it were really about safety, the child would still have access to the safe parts of that parent’s world, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, siblings, and family friends. When a child is denied all of those relationships, t

Parental alienation rarely comes wrapped in honesty. Instead, it disguises itself under buzzwords: “protective,” “cautious,” “safe.” The meme says it best, “I’m not an alienating mother, I’m a protective mother.” But look closer, and the contradictions spill out. A truly protective parent monitors all risky behavior: phone use, social media exposure, late nights, alcohol, unsafe friends, unsupervised parties. They set boundaries across the board, not just when it comes to the

Who Decides if a Parent Is “Deserving”? When it comes to parental alienation, the most dangerous myth is the idea that some parents are “deserving” of their children and some are not. You see it in casual comments online, like the one that says, “Not every parent is deserving of their children.” It sounds simple. It sounds righteous. But it’s a loaded statement that flips the entire foundation of family law upside down. The Law Is Clear: Parents Don’t Earn Their Kids In the U

What I’ve Learned About Fighting a Corrupt GAL For those of you stuck dealing with a corrupt “family” court “guardian” ad litem, let me say this as clearly as I can: Your kids know you. They know you better than some money-hungry imposter who claims to “speak for them” and act in their “best interests.” I’d say “at heart,” but let’s be honest, most of these people don’t seem to have one. I’ve witnessed this system. I’ve seen the games. The lies. The bias. The coercion. The wa

When people in power, a Guardian ad Litem, a therapist, a coordinator, or sometimes even a judge say, “You Can See Your Child When You Behave Better.” On the surface, it sounds like logic. “We just want you to be appropriate.” But underneath, it’s coercive control disguised as therapy and one of the The Most Subtle and Sanctioned Form of Psychological Control in Family Court. What that sentence really means is: “Your access to your child depends on your compliance with our na

I Didn’t Need Protection from My Parent. I Needed Protection from Their Agenda. When the family court system decides who a child should be “protected” from, it often fails to recognize the most dangerous force of all, the manipulation of truth for personal or professional gain. For countless children, the parent they were told to fear wasn’t the one who caused them harm. It was the one who was rewritten into a villain’s role by adults who stood to benefit, emotionally, financ

When Guardians Ad Litem Become Part of the Problem Guardians ad litem (GALs) are supposed to protect children. They’re appointed to be the voice of the child, the neutral observer who cuts through the noise of litigation. But in too many family court cases, GALs don’t protect children, they protect narratives. The Meme Says It All, “If you encourage the alienating behavior of one parent while disregarding the evidence of alienation by the other parent… If you keep children aw

Do Family Courts Believe Only Criminals Get Divorced? Then Why Do They Treat Parents Like Felons? You don’t have to break the law to lose your child. You just have to walk through the doors of "family" court. Inside those walls, innocence isn’t presumed. It’s negotiated. And the only “crime” most parents have committed is divorce. The court that calls itself, "Family," has mastered the art of contradiction. It calls itself civil, but it functions like criminal justice without

The “I Had to Tell Them the Truth” Lie: How Justifying Alienation Destroys Children There’s a growing narrative circulating online, often wrapped in the language of empowerment and “protection.” It says things like: “I had to tell my kids the truth about their father.” “They needed to see who he really was.” “Once they saw it for themselves, they stopped believing him, and trusted me.” At first glance, it sounds like strength. Like a parent breaking silence after enduring ab

It looks innocent enough. It sounds empowering. And it’s shared thousands of times by people who genuinely believe they’re defending children. But beneath the surface, this kind of message is one of the most manipulative and damaging narratives in modern parenting culture. It quietly rewrites what protection means, turning love into leverage, and care into control. The word “protecting” is sacred. It taps directly into our primal instinct to shield children from danger. That’

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