Do Family Courts Believe Only Criminals Get Divorced? Then Why Do They Treat Parents Like Felons?

Do Family Courts Believe Only Criminals Get Divorced? Then Why Do They Treat Parents Like Felons?

You don’t have to break the law to lose your child. You just have to walk through the doors of "family" court. Inside those walls, innocence isn’t presumed. It’s negotiated. And the only “crime” most parents have committed is divorce.

The court that calls itself, "Family," has mastered the art of contradiction. It calls itself civil, but it functions like criminal justice without the justice.

No Miranda rights.

No jury.

No presumption of innocence.

No guarantee of discovery limits or evidentiary standards.

No right to counsel unless you can afford one, even if jail time is on the table.

A parent can be stripped of contact, silenced by a GAL, and forced into therapy, all based on hearsay, speculation, or a one-sided narrative built behind closed doors.

In a real criminal case, the state must prove wrongdoing beyond a reasonable doubt. In family court, a parent can lose their child based on “concerns” and even "professional" collusion.

Think about that, a judge can remove a fit parent’s access to their own child without a crime, a conviction, or a piece of verified evidence while dozens of people profit from it.

All while safe, loving and available parents are ordered to sbmit to bogus mental health evaluations they never needed. Attend attorney directed therapy sessions designed to “fix” a relationship the court itself destroyed. Pay court-appointed strangers to monitor, supervise, or “clarify” their parenting. They are fingerprinted emotionally, tracked financially, and silenced socially, all while being told it’s “for the child’s best interest.” That’s not protection. That’s punishment without a crime.

In a constitutional democracy, rights are presumed until proven forfeited. In family court, they’re suspended until proven earned. You don’t get to parent until you pass evaluation, attend therapy, and please the very professionals profiting from your compliance.

If you question it, you’re labeled “noncooperative.” If you push back, you’re “high conflict.” If you ask for proof, you’re “defensive or harassing.” And if you tell anyone your gagged and threatened with jail for contempt.

These are not legal standards. They’re control mechanisms, and they mirror the same psychological conditioning used in coercive systems.

You’re not parenting freely.

You’re parenting on probation.

Imagine a criminal judge ordering a defendant into indefinite “clarification therapy” with no timeline, no measurable goal, and no oversight. It would never happen. But in family court, it happens every day.

Parents are told to “work on themselves,” “restore communication,” or “prove stability” without ever being told what standard they’re being held to. And even worse, than that, attorneys and "mental health" professionals are telling this very thing their children. "You can't be around your parents until they work on themselves and can be trusted."

GALs are enlisted as judges. Judges defer to GALs. GALs control the therapists and the child becomes a patient in a family experiment that never ends.

Criminal defendants have a constitutional right to an attorney, even if they can’t afford one. Family court parents don’t. They’re forced to pay for guardians ad litem, custody evaluators, and therapy programs that more often than not exceed the entirety of their monthly bills and take up more time than their 60 hour a week jobs.

The less you comply, the more the professionals profit. The more you fight, the longer the case drags out. The longer it drags out, the more they get paid. It’s a business model built on destruction. And it only works if you make everyone believe the parents walking through those doors must have done something wrong.

That’s the unspoken presumption family court runs on. If you were truly innocent, you wouldn’t be here. If you were truly stable, you wouldn’t be fighting. But where else would you go to get a divorce? Is there a better option than "family" Court? If they don't start doing better I'lll make it my mission to find one.

They call it "In the child’s best interest." They call it "Family" court.

But it looks a lot like a business of monetized correction with a parole plan to me.