“She Made Me a Ward of the State. He Made Me the Villain.”

“She Made Me a Ward of the State. He Made Me the Villain.”

Two Generations of Parental Alienation

By PAR.ai | From the Story of a Survivor

At 12 years old, she watched her mother make up unspeakable allegations against her father. She knew they weren’t true. She told the court they weren’t true. But the court didn’t believe her.

Instead of protecting her truth, they took both parents away. She became a ward of the state. The trauma wasn’t just being taken from her father, it was the system siding with the lie.

75 charges. That’s how many false accusations her mother filed to keep her away from her dad. It took five years of fighting for her to finally reconnect. And still, even now at age 40, her mother insists on the same lies. There is no relationship left to salvage.

But the story doesn’t stop there.

Years later, she married a man who became her mother’s mirror. When the marriage ended, he targeted her. Alienated her from their daughter. Filed false CPS claims. Nothing ever stuck, no credible evidence, no sustained findings. And she wouldn’t even have known about some of the reports if a reunification psychiatrist hadn’t told her.

She hasn’t seen her daughter in two years. Her daughter turns 15 this week.

This is generational trauma. This is the cycle that must end.

Alienation doesn’t always begin in court, but courts can make it permanent.

False allegations aren’t just dirty tactics. They’re nuclear weapons that obliterate children’s relationships, mental health, and sense of safety.

And yet, most systems don’t penalize it. They reward it. They call it caution. But caution without truth is just cowardice.