When Family Courts Enable Alienators and Empower Professionals to Look Away

When Family Courts Enable Alienators and Empower Professionals to Look Away

By PAR.ai

She said the child was scared.

No documentation. No diagnosis. No threat ever substantiated.

But the court listened.

She said she was protecting her child.

No injunction. No evidence.

But GAL parroted.

The therapist agreed.

The judge delayed.

And the father?

He lost holidays. Birthdays. Years.

Not because he was proven dangerous,

But because she said so.

The New Face of Control: Fear Framed as “Protection”

Family courts are flooded with vague allegations dressed up as concern. The word “unsafe” has replaced “violent.”

“Anxious” has replaced “abused.”

And “I’m just protecting them” has replaced any burden of proof.

Let’s be clear:

You are not protecting a child when you deny them access to a safe parent.

You are controlling them.

And when professionals go along with it?

They are complicit in emotional abuse.

The Professionals Who Help It Happen

• Therapists who echo fears without conducting full evaluations.

  
  

• GALs who claim neutrality while parroting the alienating parent’s script.

  
  

• Judges who reward avoidance with custody and call it “best interest.”

  
  

• Parenting coordinators who silence the rejected parent in the name of “cooperation.”

  
  

• Reunification therapists who require the child to bond with the alienator first, then wonder why the child resists reunifying with the erased parent.

  
  

Every time a professional accepts “belief” as a substitute for proof, they are validating control, not protection.

What Protection Actually Looks Like

• Verified facts.

  
  

• Due process.

  
  

• Mental health assessments that consider both parents.

  
  

• Judicial courage to enforce lawful orders, on time.

  
  

• Professionals trained to spot coercive control, enmeshment, and false protective claims.

Anything less than that is enabling.

And enabling isn’t neutral. It’s destructive.

The Bottom Line

We have a generation of children growing up with one erased parent,

not because of abuse, but because someone was allowed to frame fear as fact.

Courts, therapists, and agencies must stop treating emotion as evidence.

Because when “protection” becomes an excuse to control, children aren’t being shielded.

They’re being shaped, by lies, fear, and power.

We See It. We’re Naming It. We’re Done Staying Silent.

Protection without evidence is control in disguise.

And every professional who endorses it?

We’re watching you now.

Is someone enabling the alienation of your child(ren) add them to our National Database.