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40 Questions Designed to Help Assess Whether a Parent is Experiencing Parental Alienation


The following are 40 questions designed to help assess whether a parent is experiencing parental alienation by exploring their experiences, observations, and interactions with their child and the other parent. These questions should be used with the guidance of professionals, as parental alienation is a complex issue that requires careful analysis. These questions are for educational purposes only.


General Relationship with the Child


1. How would you describe your relationship with your child?


2. Has your relationship with your child changed recently? If so, how?


3. Does your child appear comfortable around you, or do they seem hesitant?


4. Have you noticed any significant shifts in how your child interacts with you?


5. Does your child express affection toward you like they used to?


6. Do they seem upset or distant when they come to your home or spend time with you?


Child’s Behavior and Communication


7. Has your child ever expressed negative feelings toward you without a clear reason?


8. Do they ever refuse to spend time with you or come to your home?


9. Has your child accused you of things you haven’t done?


10. Does your child avoid sharing details about their time with the other parent?


11. Have they ever said things about you that sound like they come from the other parent?


12. Has your child ever used language or phrases that seem unusually mature for their age?


13. Do they consistently side with the other parent, even in minor disagreements?


Interference with Parenting Time


14. Has the other parent ever canceled or interfered with your scheduled visitation?


15. Have there been unexplained delays or obstacles in picking up or dropping off your child?


16. Have you been denied access to your child’s school or medical information?


17. Have you experienced sudden changes in parenting schedules without explanation?


18. Does the other parent frequently make excuses for why your child cannot see you?


19. Has the other parent ever encouraged your child to skip visits with you?


Statements from the Other Parent


20. Has the other parent said negative things about you in front of your child?


21. Has the other parent ever accused you of being unsafe, neglectful, or abusive without justification?


22. Have you been told that your child doesn’t want to see you or feels afraid of you?


23. Has the other parent made accusations against you to teachers, doctors, or others in authority?


24. Does the other parent blame you for the separation or other family issues?


Child’s Perceptions and Attitudes


25. Does your child express anger toward you that feels disproportionate or unexplained?


26. Have they ever repeated criticisms about you that you believe originated from the other parent?


27. Does your child ever accuse you of things they couldn’t have witnessed or known about directly?


28. Has your child ever expressed guilt or worry about spending time with you?


Communication with the Child


29. Are there difficulties in contacting your child via phone, text, or other means?


30. Does your child respond to your calls or texts when they are with the other parent?


31. Have you noticed a difference in how your child communicates with you versus the other parent?


32. Do you feel your child avoids meaningful conversations with you?


Behavior of the Other Parent


33. Has the other parent discouraged your child from calling or spending time with you?


34. Have you noticed the other parent controlling your child’s interactions with you?


35. Has the other parent ever withheld important information about your child (e.g., school events, medical updates)?


36. Has the other parent ever involved your child in adult conflicts or court matters?


Emotional Impact on You


37. How has this situation affected your ability to maintain a bond with your child?


38. Do you feel like you’re losing your connection with your child?


39. How has the behavior of the other parent impacted your ability to co-parent effectively?


40. Do you feel your concerns are being dismissed or misunderstood by others involved?


Key Observations:


The answers to these questions should be reviewed by a qualified mental health or legal professional to determine if there are signs of parental alienation or other co-parenting challenges. Parental alienation involves patterns of behavior aimed at disrupting the child’s relationship with the targeted parent, and careful analysis is essential to avoid false conclusions.


Disclaimer: This advice cannot be considered legal advice and is for educational purposes only. For legal advice, consult a qualified attorney.

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