🍲 CONFLICT SOUP: How Family Court Insiders Stir the Pot While Parents Pay the Price.

If you’ve ever felt like your family court case reads more like a small-town soap opera than a legal proceeding, you’re not imagining it. Family court isn’t just a system, it’s a network, and that network protects itself.

Welcome to Conflict Soup: Family Court Style, where everyone knows everyone else, everyone owes someone else, and your child is just the garnish floating on top.

Let’s break down one of the most common, and most corrupt, patterns we see across the country.

🥄 Ingredients: One Case, Unlimited Conflicts

Ingredient #1:

Your attorney works with the GAL in one case…

Ingredient #2:

Then suddenly asks that same GAL to be co-counsel in another case.

Ingredient #3:

Your new co-counsel wasn’t just a lawyer, she was the GAL for opposing counsel’s husband in his custody case.

Ingredient #4:

Opposing counsel was involved in that case too.

Ingredient #5:

Oh, and the counselor?

The one evaluating your child?

The one writing reports?

The one everyone treats as “neutral”?

Yeah.

Same counselor in both cases.

Same players.

Same circle.

Same soup.

You’re not in court you’re in a casserole dish of cronyism, slow-cooked in secrecy and seasoned with conflict of interest.

🍽️ What They Call “Standard Practice,” We Call a Constitutional Violation

Let’s call this out clearly:

No ethical system allows people to switch roles, GAL, attorney, co-counsel, witness, therapist, like it’s community theater.

But in family court?

They don’t just allow it, they depend on it.

Why?

Because conflict fuels money.

Money fuels control.

Control fuels silence.

They call it “standard practice.”

We call it racketeering with paperwork.

🍜 The Recipe: How to Cook Chaos in 5 Easy Steps

1. Rotate the roles (keeps the money in the family).

Today’s GAL is tomorrow’s attorney, yesterday’s evaluator, and next month’s “neutral” mediator.

2. Cross-pollinate cases.

Everyone shows up in everyone else’s courtroom.

Everyone has history.

Everyone has leverage.

3. Make sure at least one therapist sticks around.

They’re the seasoning, a little “clinical concern” can justify any outcome.

4. Pretend none of it is connected.

Lie by omission.

Hide relationships.

Call it coincidence.

5. Tell the parent they’re overreacting.

Gaslight as needed.

🥄 The Problem Isn’t the Soup, It’s Who’s Stirring It

When your GAL, your attorney, the opposing attorney, the therapist, and the judge are all running in the same tight circle, you don’t have a fair process.

You have a loop.

A loop designed to keep the same professionals in power. A loop designed to recycle the same narratives. A loop designed to guarantee the same outcomes.

Your evidence doesn’t matter in that loop. Your child doesn’t matter in that loop. The truth definitely doesn’t matter.

What matters?

Control of the case.

Control of the parent.

Control of the money.

🔥 The Real Danger: Built-In Bias

When your co-counsel has already served as GAL for your opponent’s husband, and your counselor already worked with them all in multiple cases,

you aren’t entering a courtroom. You’re entering a pre-arranged agreement dressed up as "due process."

Every “professional opinion” is already influenced. Every “concern” is pre-seasoned. Every “recommendation” is a recycled script.

This isn’t incompetence. This is collusion.

💡 Parents Aren’t Losing Because They’re Unfit. They’re losing because the system is incestuous.

If your case feels rigged, biased, scripted, circular, contradictory, or impossible, look at the relationships.

Look at who worked with whom.

Look at who trained whom.

Look at who refers to whom.

Look at who owes whom.

It’s not paranoia.

It’s the pattern.

📢 And here’s the truth they don’t want you to understand:

No GAL should ever be co-counsel.

No attorney should switch roles with a GAL.

No “neutral” should be involved in overlapping cases with the same players.

No counselor should work alongside the same attorney/GAL pair in multiple cases without disclosure.

This isn’t just unethical, It’s unconstitutional. And in family court?

It’s just any old Tuesday.

⚖️ Final Word: If the soup tastes corrupt, it’s because it is.

Family court insiders aren’t making mistakes. They’re making money. They’re making alliances. They’re making decisions long before you ever walk in the room.

Parents aren’t crazy.

Parents aren’t mistaken.

Parents aren’t imagining it.

Parents are waking up.

And when parents wake up, systems fall apart. Welcome to Conflict Soup: Family Court Style where we finally call the recipe what it is.