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What signs should an alienated parent look for that may indicate the child is being manipulated or influenced.

1. Sudden Change in Attitude: If the child suddenly exhibits a negative or hostile attitude towards the alienated parent without a clear reason, it could be a sign of manipulation.

2. Use of Adult Language or Concepts: The child may use words or phrases that are beyond their age level, indicating they may have been coached on what to say.

3. Inconsistent Stories: The child's accounts of events may be inconsistent or contradictory, suggesting they are being fed information rather than expressing genuine experiences.

4. Lack of Independent Thinking: The child may parrot opinions or beliefs that align closely with the alienating parent's views, lacking independent thought or critical thinking.

5. Expressing Fear or Rejection: If the child expresses fear or rejection towards the alienated parent without a valid reason, it could be a result of coaching by the alienating parent.

6. Neglect of Previously Enjoyed Activities: If the child suddenly loses interest in activities or hobbies they previously enjoyed with the alienated parent, it could be a sign of alienation.

7. Inability to Explain Feelings: The child may struggle to express their own feelings or reasons for their behavior, suggesting they may be following someone else's script.

8. Overly Defensive Behavior: The child may become overly defensive or hostile when questioned about their interactions with the alienated parent, a common response to coaching.

9. Changes in Behavior or Emotions: Any sudden changes in the child's behavior, emotions, or overall demeanor should be noted and examined for signs of external influence.

It's important for the alienated parent to observe these signs carefully before discussing them with their therapist. The therapist can then help in assessing the situation and determining the best course of action to address potential coaching and support the child's emotional well-being.



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